Hacking Your Emotional API 2.9 - Southeast Ruby

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1. Hacking Your Emotional APIv2.9
2. @emotionalAPI John Sawers Engineering Manager at Privia Health @emotionalapi @johnksawers http://emotionalapi.com he/his/him
3. “Emotions just make so much sense to me” — No One Ever
4. @emotionalAPI • Cry • Make a Scene • Whine • Yell Don’t
5. @emotionalAPI Do • • • •
6. @emotionalAPI We’re on our own
7. Endpoints @emotionalAPI
8. Middleware @emotionalAPI delete /job/12 put /events/mother/visit put /baby/new post /people/co-worker/insult get /people/boss/compliment /feels/sadness
 /feels/anger
 /feels/fear
 /feels/anger
 /feels/pride Senses Wetware Inputs
9. Middleware @emotionalAPI delete /job/12 put /events/mother/visit put /baby/new post /people/co-worker/insult get /people/boss/compliment /feels/love
 /feels/anger
 /feels/fear
 /feels/shame
 /feels/pride Senses Wetware Inputs
10. Methods delete '/job/:id'
 100.times do
 Thread.new(post('/feels/fear')
 end
 20.times do
 Thread.new(post('/feels/sadness')
 end
 end @emotionalAPI
11. @emotionalAPI A Public API The Bad News
12. Decomposability @emotionalAPI
13. “But feelings are icky, and I don’t wanna” — You, probably
14. “Trying not to feel something doesn’t work, and in some cases even backfires” David Rock Your Brain At Work[11]
15. @emotionalAPI Coding Solo
16. @emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems
17. @emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1]
18. @emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1] • Poorer Short Term Memory [2]
19. @emotionalAPI Cognitive Problems • Poorer Executive Function [1] • Poorer Short Term Memory [2] • Lower ability to handle stress and cope with crisis [3]
20. @emotionalAPI Cognitive & Health Benefits • “…not just in improved behavior but in measurable academic achievement.”[5] • “…measurable health advantage”[9]
21. @emotionalAPI Coding Together
22. @emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7]
23. @emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7] • Better career advancement[8]
24. @emotionalAPI Cognitive & Social Benefits • “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.”[7] • Better career advancement[8] • Less self-centered [4] • Empathy!
25. @emotionalAPI "It wasn't enough to merely be a good engineer at Valve. If you were a good engineer with zero communication skills your chances at surviving and thriving when I was there were pretty low. If you acted like an asshole and didn't have many friends it didn't matter how good you were or how awesome your accomplishments were. People like this would be fired sooner or later." - Rich Geldreich https://richg42.blogspot.com/2017/09/things-learned-while-running-your-own.html
26. Scenarios
27. @emotionalAPI Degraded Cognition
28. @emotionalAPI Advocate for Ideas
29. @emotionalAPI Code Reviews
30. @emotionalAPI Distraction
31. @emotionalAPI Problematic Teammates
32. @emotionalAPI Impostor Syndrome
33. @emotionalAPI Interviewed, Hired, Fired
34. @emotionalAPI Manage & Mentor
35. http://frontside.io/ Senior Software Developer
36. Toolkit
37. @emotionalAPI Level 1: Conceptual Tools Level 2: On Your Own Level 3: With Someone Else Level 4: With a Group
38. @emotionalAPI Level 1 Conceptual Tools
39. @emotionalAPI You Control The Implementation
40. @emotionalAPI You can control where and when you express your feelings (But you don’t have to)
41. @emotionalAPI get('/feels/anger').perform_later
42. @emotionalAPI They Don’t Mean Anything
43. @emotionalAPI Fear of Loss of Control
44. @emotionalAPI Feelings are Enumerable, not Boolean Anger Disgust Shame
45. @emotionalAPI There Is No Should
46. @emotionalAPI Emotional Debt
47. @emotionalAPI “Even if it feels bad, it’s ok to let it feel bad. Eventually you’ll stop feeling bad because feelings just don’t last very long” Amy Cuddy Presence[13]
48. @emotionalAPI Level 2 On Your Own
49. @emotionalAPI Move Your Body
50. @emotionalAPI Move Your Body Dancing • Singing • Exercise
51. @emotionalAPI Rubber Duck Debugging
52. @emotionalAPI “…consciously recognizing the emotions reduced their impact.” David Rock Your Brain At Work[10]
53. @emotionalAPI Yup, talking
54. @emotionalAPI The Feel Wheel[12]
55. @emotionalAPI “I feel” vs. “I am”
56. @emotionalAPI Emotional Retro
57. @emotionalAPI Level 3 With Another Person
58. @emotionalAPI Again, Talking
59. @emotionalAPI Feel first
60. @emotionalAPI Bring In A Consultant
61. @emotionalAPI Level 4 With A Group
62. @emotionalAPI How did I get here? “…an intensive 20-hr Weekend Retreat in which you will explore your erroneous belief systems, learn to appropriately express emotions in a manner that heals…” Purpose • Passion • Peace http://aliceamos.me/p3retreat/
63. GET /feels/
64. @emotionalAPI delete /v5/parents/marriage
 
 post /v6/parents/:dad_id/set_emotional_distance/1000
 
 post /v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer
 
 delete /v17/parents/:dad_id
65. @emotionalAPI /v5 delete /v5/parents/marriage do
 20.times.do {
 Thread.new(get('/feels/fear'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/blame'))
 }
 delete('/feels/self_worth')
 end
66. @emotionalAPI /v8 post /v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer do
 20.times.do {
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/fear'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end
67. @emotionalAPI /v17 def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end
68. @emotionalAPI Narrator: It did not blow over
69. @emotionalAPI Stack Trace NoMethodError - undefined method `paternal_approval’ for BossClass: /me/feels/panic.rb:9:in `initialize' /me/feels/love/daddy:14:in `none_for_you’ /me/feels/fear/mistake/guaranteed_to_be_fired:21:in `realize_mistake’ /me/events/releases/prod/bug_count/metrics.rb:39:in `count_bugs’
70. @emotionalAPI Stack Trace NoMethodError - undefined method `paternal_approval’ for BossClass: /me/feels/panic.rb:9:in `initialize' /me/feels/love/daddy:14:in `none_for_you’ /me/feels/fear/mistake/guaranteed_to_be_fired:21:in `realize_mistake’ /me/events/releases/prod/bug_count/metrics.rb:39:in `count_bugs’
71. “Crying doesn’t indicate you are weak, since birth it has always been a sign to indicate you are alive” — attributed to Charlotte Brontë
72. @emotionalAPI /v17 def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end
73. @emotionalAPI Diff def /v17/parents/:dad_id do
 1000.times.do { 500.times.do {
 Thread.new(post('/v8/parents/:dad_id/diseases/cancer'))
 Thread.new(delete('/v5/parents/marriage'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/anger'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/sadness'))
 }
 end
74. @emotionalAPI Diff get /me/events/releases/prod/bugs/count_high do
 Thread.new(get('/feels/unloved'))
 Thread.new(get('/feels/panic'))
 puts 'oops'
 fix_it
 move_on
 end
75. @emotionalAPI Baggage
76. @emotionalAPI The Ultimate Goal
77. Soft Skills Super Hard Skills
78. @emotionalAPI Best Practices
79. @emotionalAPI Pick One Thing
80. @emotionalAPI Compassion
81. DEEP BREATH
82. @emotionalAPI Thank You So Much Slides: https://speakerdeck.com/johnksawers/hacking-your-emotional-api-v2-dot-6-oscon Videos: http://emotionalapi.com Twitter: @emotionalAPI Come get a feel wheel!
83. @emotionalAPI References [1],[2] “…a lack of power impairs our cognitive function.’ Amy Cuddy, Presence 119 [3] “In fact, people who have a high sense of personal control…cope significantly better in crisis…because their executive functions are intact” Amy Cuddy, Presence, 136 [4] “Powerlessness makes us self-absorbed” Amy Cuddy, Presence 121 [5] “Helping children improve their self-awareness and confidence, manage their disturbing emotional impulses and increase their empathy pays off not just in improved behavior but in measurable academic achievement.” — Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xi [6] “The [people who feel] powerful process information more abstractly, integrating information to extract the gist, detecting patterns and relationships” Smith, P.K., Dijkterhuis, A, & Wigbuldus, D.H. Psychology Science, 19, 1258-1259 [7] “Subjects made to feel powerful judged emotional expression more accurately.” Amy Cuddy, Presence 127 [8] “…having high leadership potential were far stronger in EI competencies…” Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xiii [9] “Those who can mange their emotional lives with more calm and self-awareness … have … distinct and measurable health advantage … confirmed by many studies” Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence xi [10] “…when they were asked to name the emotion, the ventrolateral prefrontal cortex activated and reduced the emotional amygdala reactivity. In other words, consciously recognizing the emotions reduced their impact.” David Rock, Your Brain At Work 127 [11] Gross found that people who tried to suppress a negative emotional experience failed to do so. While they thought they looked fine outwardly, inwardly their limbic system was just as aroused as without suppression. Trying not to feel something doesn’t work, and in some cases even backfires. David Rock, Your Brain At Work 119 [12] The Feeling Wheel http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/036215378201200411